Joanna was so inspired by the catwalks with the large bows everywhere- she was dying to try to create that casual elegance for the table....So after a few trials her studio- they got the proportions just right! The tie is fastened to the back of the napkin- so you will not lose it and you can really make the style your own... large bow/ less tie...less bow/ more drama with the ties! Just like an LBD!